Hi there! My name is Shavon, creator of The E.Y.E. CANDY Wife. Super friendly introvert. Lover of all things DIY (thanks, Pinterest). Not a sore loser, but I DON’T LIKE TO LOSE, so competitive is an understatement! I get a crazy amount of pleasure from crafting the perfect handmade party décor, I mean very few things make me happier! I’m a laid back kinda girl who loves to go with the flow but has learned to crave the structure necessary for life success.
Can I just be honest, however, and say, that I was a very unsuccessful wife and downright miserable in my marriage for a very long time? At the time, I didn’t even realize that I wasn’t a great wife. I mean, I kept a decent house, got up at 4:30 am every morning (before having children) to make breakfast for my husband when I wasn’t traveling for work AND he had clean underwear! Not only was I a domestic diva but I was genuinely in love and excited about finally having the opportunity to pour out my love, respect and affection on a man worthy of having me as his wife.
But of course, it didn’t take long before real marital life set in. You know I could give you 100 reasons why I thought most of our issues and disagreements were my husband’s fault, right? Mmm hmm! In fact, I had no problem pointing them out to him. But truth be told, I was a broken girl with a lot of baggage. In reality, neither my husband nor my marriage had brought me the love or fulfillment that I subconsciously hoped it would. Instead, it seemed painfully obvious, to me at the time, that my husband had no intentions of prioritizing my fulfillment or happiness. Surely if that were the case I would not have been the bitter, resentful, always angry and attitudinal-about-something wife that I had become. Seriously, one “wrong” move from my husband -at any given time- could send me into a tailspin of emotional instability and despair. I was living in a vicious cycle of marital discontentment with no end in sight.
When the thoughts of leaving my family came to mind, I knew I had reached a point of desperation. Nothing I had done up until that point had changed my husband nor had it made me a happier person or more peaceful and loving wife. I needed God to change me and my unyielding heart! I’ll be the first to say that change can be messy, but with a heart of humility, commitment towards the process, and a whole lotta faith change will come! These days I couldn’t be happier to be my guy’s wife! And as you join me for the ride, I’ll share more of my journey as well as some tools to help you become the woman you love and a wife who loves fully.